A new Beginning

Sawadee Khrap

Bright days again in Chiang Mai – Team and I have resolved our differences and will renew our relationship.  I couldn’t be more happier. 

It is very difficult to have a meaningful gay marriage here, or for that matter anywhere, I suppose., but even more so here because different cultures and language are involved.  Our first 4 months were not easy with many misunderstandings, we had difficulty talking it out, and both had serious questions as to the other’s sincerity.  Most of the average Thailand b/f relationships are not much more than prolonged one-night stands.  Particularly with older foreign partners who make gross promises and then abandoning the relationship when they get bored or have to go back home, or money boys who are always looking for greener pastures.

Well,  we’ve gotten through the hardest part and can now concentrate of making the relationship a success.  May God and Buddha Bless.


Back in Chiang Mai

Sawadee Khrap

Just got back to Chiang Mai from a short trip to Pattaya to get my new phone.  Jerry was kind enough to get it for me and so I took a short vacation to pick it up.  Planned to stay till Friday but cut it short after I was threatened by a knife welding Cambodian money boy when I would not take him home for the evening.  Don’t need the aggravation and didn’t go down there to play with the boys in the Complex.

Times are getting rough down there and it is starting to show – Jomtien had plenty of boys but little customers.  The complex had just opened after being closed for a while to morn the King’s passing, so anyone walking the streets now is a potential target for starving MB’s.   Even the guy I rented the car from was complaining on how bad the local economy was and he didn’t see it getting any better for a long time.  Many new condominiums have been finished and no buyers – but typical to Thai habits the prices seems to be remaining the same – they don’t drop the price to make sales but just wait for times get better.  They suffered this with the Russians and now with the Chinese zero-dollar tour influx.  They’re not buying, just coming by the millions – not good for the Thai economy.

Well I got my phone – a Sony Xperia Z3  and just fired it up so have nothing to write about yet.   Just hoping it works as well as I have been told.  More later.


Things may be looking up

Sawadee Khrap

Just got back from Sriphat Hospital visiting 3 doctors, Cardio, Kidney, and Physical Health and all gave me good grades.  BP  120/50 and appears stable so far,  kidney function stabilized, muscle spasms in lower back eliminated by stretching exercises, ED appears under control, Plavix stopped and hip pain gone, acid reflux much lower since using coconut oil for cooking. and the glaucoma problem seems to be getting better using the latest drops Azopt – side-effects almost all gone – vision becoming much clearer – next month will actually tell when I go see the ophthalmologist again. 

One problem is still there but greatly reduce and that’s the mild aching in my legs especially in the evening that can sometimes wake me up.  For that I have been told to start drinking more milk to raise the calcium levels and do more stretching exercises along with increased walking.  I am using the elliptical machine again and can do more walking since eliminating the pain in my hips from the Plavix.       Soooo   milk it is.

It was quite a trip to get here and I feel sorry for many that suffer with similar medical problems and just stick to the first or same medicine prescribed without carefully questioning everything, doing their own research (internet is excellent) and developing a mutually agreed plan with their doctors concerning their health.   I had to work with my doctors, giving them the best feedback I could about any and all side-effects and not just accept the first results to get where I am now.  And believe me we tested several combinations –  I thought the doctors were going to give up before I did, but they worked with me all along.

The doctors at Sriphat Hospital, Chiang Mai and Siriraj Hospital, Bangkok are excellent – and I don’t think you can find better hospitals anywhere – and considering the cost I am sure you can’t.  Today’s visits with all three specialists, totals 1200 Baht   $35


Coconut Oil

Sawadee Khrap

My latest discovery – cooking with coconut oil – 2 weeks ago I started cooking everything , eggs, stir-fried dishes, black bean with pork, pork chops, etc. using coconut oil instead of my normal olive oil.   What a difference so far, my acid-reflux problem that has plagued me for several years has all but disappeared.  The food tastes great, so even if this is just a passing fad there is no reason to change back.  I never liked palm or corn oils, which is so commonly used here, and I have read many articles that olive oil should not be heated but only used on things like salads – cold.

I’m never the first one to try anything, I’d rather wait and see if good results from others are there before I venture in.  And although for years I have been using only coconut oil for my massages, cooking with it was not considered – I really thought the taste would be too much.  It’s not  – the food is delicious.   I had switched to olive from the normal corn or palm cooking oils when I started having my BP problems – blocked arteries.

I have read several articles that in the past coconut oil was the preferred oil for cooking – but in the wisdom of the food industry they shot it down for polyunsaturated vegetable oils claiming they were better for the fight against heart disease.  Coconut was way too expensive to compete against these cheap oils and lost out.  Actually the populous lost out – coconut, with its anti-inflammatory properties and healthy saturated fats is far better – heart disease from sugars and polyunsaturated oils is far more common. .  Butter is better than margarine.

So there, if your not using coconut oil and still using the common artery-choking cooking oils – stop and try coconut.


Keep your BP under control

Sawadee Khrap

Amazing, about Sept 7th I was told about having glaucoma and was prescribed eye drops to reduce the pressure in my eyes.  Did that ever start a chain of events that a month would finally lead me to being single again.  Prior to that my BP was stable about 110-122 and I felt very calm and happy – I think our relationship was too, I did have some apprehension about how close we were but I think that we were getting closer – I have to admit that I did rush into the affair, which I shouldn’t have have done and really taken it slower with him.  But that being said, as I look back now I think we were on a path to possibly making it work. Then came the eye drops!!

The first drops, when sleeping,  caused terrible pain in my legs and knees and real vivid bad paranoiac dreams. So we went to the next trial, the dreams became less but the pain continued and my BP started to climb. By the time we got to the third medicine, my BP was back to pre-stent time 160-200 and my composure and temperament had started to go through the roof.   I could notice it in my driving but didn’t think I was also projection it toward my relationship.  I had also started to develop paranoia about our relationship being true.  Little things would really had become large problems.  It’s always a task to make a multi-culture relationship work but with this added influence it would become impossible.

I had started lashing about about little things that I saw that I thought were undermining our relations, especially at night, trying to get to sleep,  I would see all the possible infractions that was leading to the conclusion that he didn’t love me.  Well the rest is history, we broke up after a big fight.   Can’t use hind sight here.

For the past several days I have stopped all eye drops and my BP is slowly dropping with my mood and temperament becoming more calm.  It’s really a remarkable change that I can feel, I don’t know what the glaucoma status is – too late for the relationship but possibly some help to others that are fighting high BP and glaucoma.

All I can say is be careful of what drugs you take – I am going back first to the Cardiologist tomorrow and go over the whole series of events and the BP drug interactions with the glaucoma medicine.  And then get the two doctors in concert before trying any new drugs again.  Hopefully there is a better way to control the eye pressure, short of Laser Surgery, that doesn’t effect my BP or personality.   As for the relationship, I really hope he finds the Bear he was always looking for.


Drug Interactions !!!

Sawadee Khrap

My God, do you have to watch out for drug interactions.  I have been fairly stable on my regime of drugs so far  – valsartan, Madiplot, aspirin, folic acid, Fish Oil, turmeric, black pepper, and Cialis.

Getting off the Plavix took most of the pain from my hips and I can finally walk again – but weak from no exercise  – I did increase the Turmeric to 1000mg daily to fight any inflammation – seems to be working.

but when I was told about having mild Glaucoma – they first prescribed some drops called Taflotan – a prostaglandin analog – one drop each eye in the evening.  I could put up with all the sided effects except the pain in my knees – yes, eye drops causing pain in my knees. amazing.  So now they switched to Alphagan – a Adrenergic agonists – knee pain gone and my vision seems clearer – but probably just from the drops moisture  – not the medicine itself..  This stuff supposedly can cause higher blood pressure so I just have to wait and see if it makes mine climb too high.   Both  lower the fluid in the eye reducing pressure but also can react with or against BP medicines – I.e. Valsartan – and one of the side effects (which I haven’t had before ) is pain in knees and joints.

I think that there was a reaction with the valsartan to cause the knee pain – anyway seems to be getting better so far on the new stuff – but I will be monitoring the BP more closely.  My home situation doesn’t help – stress is not a good thing to constantly have – need to clear this up fast and get back to a stress-free life or at lest the best I can do.


Looks like the family is broken up

Sawadee Khrap

Well it looks like the family has broken up – Pity, but the only way to really see if it will work is to start it and see how it proceeds.  I should have seen this earlier but I was blind to anything except it working. It seems we both have a different idea of what relationship, partner, or marriage means. Didn’t last long, but that’s for the best – it gets more painful the longer it goes on and promises are made and actions speak a different attitude. 

I also am seriously considering moving back to Pattaya – I think I can tolerate the warmer weather now that my BP is back to normal  and single life there has more to offer – Chiang Mai is a bedroom community and doesn’t have the large single sites  – especially for gay – like Pattaya does and many articles I have been reading state that living near the sea has added health benefits.  What a relief to have the BP under control  – should make it easier to get back to a normal life.


Don’t forget your will

Sawadee Khrap

Mr. Durwood is on his deathbed and knows the end is near. His nurse, his wife, his daughter and 2 sons are with him.   He says to them:
“Paul, I want you to take the Shaughnessy houses.”
“Valerie, take the condos over in Coal Harbor and False Creek.”
“Mike, I want you to take the offices over in the City Centre.”
“Mildred, my dear wife, please take all the residential buildings in Point Grey.”
The nurse is just blown away by all this and, as he slips away, she says “Mrs. Durwood, your husband must have been such a hard-working man to have accumulated all this property!”    Mildred replies, “Property?   The asshole had a paper route!”

From Paul’s Sunday Funnies.   email: sundayfunniescnx@gmail.com


CMU freshman Suthep Walk

Sawadee Khrap

Just got back from driving Team to CMU,  4 AM,  so he could get in position to greet the Freshmen on their annual walk to Wat Doi Suthep.  This is a 12 KM hike ( 8 miles).  Since he’s already a Bachelor Graduate,  he will be stationed somewhere along the path to assist the new students in their merit climb.  I hope to have some personal photos to post when he gets back tonight.Suthep walk

He  just got some photos at the start with his Faculty of Medicine Group before they started up the trial – but no shots as the climb went on – he also came back with the start of a bad cold – team CMU2  also check out this video from the University.team CMU1 Ciao

Off the Plavix – eye problems

Sawadee Khrap

Today I stopped taking the Plavix – I really think this is the culprit responsible for the pain I get in my hips and legs when walking – we will see.   Both my Cardiologist here and the Surgeon who put in the stents said it was ok to stop after 30 days  and it’s been 2 months so far.

I have heard some bad reports about Plavix and particularly when used in combination with aspirin.  Very bad for the heart – so I am glad to hear I can stop using it.  Having no heart problems just blockage in the renal arteries I guess I am not as susceptible to strokes or major blood clotting.

I was given 2 – Express SD Renal stents.  Stainless steel balloon expandable Non-drug-eluting peripheral stents.   In their literature they state 30 day for Plavix needed. In the past I had a reaction to “metals” and could not wear bracelets or rings for over 20 years with out mild allergic reactions.  However for the past 3-4 years this has not been a problem and it seems that the stents caused no problems either- at least not so far.  I wear 2 rings now with no side effects either.

So now I am down to taking:

Madiplot, Valsartan, baby aspirin, Folic acid – along with Cialis, Turmeric and black peppercorns.

BUT, lasts week I had a eye exam and they found I have started to develop Glaucoma in both eyes – so I am now started on “Taflotan”  – one drop each eye in the evening – hopefully this will control this problem. — getting to that age where everything is bucking up against the warranty and starting to fail.  Doctor tells me there could be side effects – could be he states ?  haha – red eyes and black around the area – we will see.   I do see a little bloodshot started but mild so far and haven’t noticed any darkling around the eyes – don’t want a clown appearance.

It never ends.


Mae Ya & Mae Klang Waterfalls

Sawadee Khrap

Today we went down to the base of Doi Inthanon in Chom Thong District for a morning drive and chance to get away.  Walked to each waterfall and got some photos but didn’t stay for along time – had to get back and get some house chores done.

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Mae Klang WaterfallDSC01359-Edit

Both real beautiful falls but it’s been a dry, wet season and the rivers are real low  – last time I was here you could not approach the falls because of the high fear from the fast currents and possible flash floods. – but today everything seemed quite calm.  Nevertheless if was a good morning and luckily we got back before the overcast skies let loose any rain.


on the Nail

Sawadee Khrap

One morning, on his way out to check on the fields, the rancher says to his blond haired girlfriend Sue, “The Veterinarian is coming over to impregnate one of our cows today.  I drove a nail into the 2 by 4 just above the cow’s stall in the barn. Please show him where the cow is when he gets here, OK?”
A while later the Vet arrives and knocks on the front door. “I came to take care of the cow,” he says.  Sue takes him down to the barn and as they walk along the row of cows, Sue sees the nail and tells him, “This is the one right here.”
The man, assuming he is dealing with an airhead blonde, asks, “Tell me lady, I’m dying to know, how YOU  know that this is the right cow to be bred?”  “That’s simple”, she confidently explains, “By the nail that’s over its stall”.
Laughing rudely at her, the man says, “And what, pray tell, is the nail for”?  She turns to walk away and whispers over her shoulder, “I guess it’s to hang your pants on.”

Thanks to Paul’s Sunday Funnies.